Had a couple interesting questions about the flag metric that I wanted to discuss. But first, what is a notch? The most objective answer would be when the plane of the vagina is broken. This means any depth of insertion. Everything else is subjective. If a guy told me his latest notch was when he put it in one inch, I’d roll my eyes but I would not dispute his notch. The problem is that once you start looking for perfect definitions, you can talk yourself into anything.

Every woman seems to have a different definition that would make the notch count mostly meaningless. I remember a friend telling me his girlfriend had the belief that sex with a man doesn’t count until he ejaculates. The standard definition isn’t perfect, but at least you know, at the minimum, what happened. That is why people keep arguing over where the line should be. Once you let everybody invent their own version, the whole thing turns into nonsense.

“How about if she moves to America at 10 years old from her birth country and is basically American?” If we go by our objective definition, we’d count that flag. It is one of the downsides of the flag metric that will boost every guy’s count by a couple flags. It is impossible to draw the line and figure out how old is old enough to be flag worthy. How about if she moved here when she was one-day old? Well just like with the one-inch penetrator I’d roll my eyes, but I would not dispute it.

So we’ve got the notch, cost per notch, and flags as objective, though flawed, indicators of game tightness. In addition, hanging out with the guy for several nights and viewing a sampling of photos of the girls he has banged would paint a much clearer picture of his game. I’ve also thought of cost per bang, but betas in serious relationships would probably compete very well. If you do test it out though, I recommend you count a series of bangs in a continuous encounter as one bang.